We set goals and never acknowledge or celebrate the small steps we take that move us closer to where we want to be. When you stop and think about it, this actually shouldn’t be a surprise. Even when we accomplish a big goal, it’s not uncommon for there to be an absence of celebration because of the feeling that there’s no time to ‘waste’ before moving on to the next thing.
You’ve done everything you know how to do. You’re exhausted from wrestling and trying to break free and your stuckness is intensifying.
What would you say if I told you that you’re really not stuck at all? I’m imagining — after calling me a few colorful names — you’d go on to make your case for why you absolutely are! You’d tell me the story that you’ve been telling yourself repeatedly. But it would be based on fiction not fact.
When’s the last time you had a good laugh… not just a chuckle but the side-splitting, milk out your nose, almost pee your pants kind of laughter? If you have to think before you answer, it’s been too long.
You might be thinking to yourself, “Lanette, the stuff going on in my life and business is no laughing matter.” And I get that. I know things can get messy and intense.
Whether things are going really well or are really challenging…. whether we are working on a project that is meaningful and energizes us or on a task that sucks the life out of us….whether we are working on our business or in our business, it’s easy to become obsessive with our work.
In all these situations it can be difficult to “flip the switch” and shift our thoughts from work to being fully present for the other parts of our life.
Success leaves clues and you are creating them. You may not be where you want to be but you are surely ahead of where you once were. Maybe you’re starting over or it might feel like for every step you take forward you are taking two steps back but I encourage you not to overlook all you’ve accomplished — past and present.
With goal setting, its not uncommon for all our focus to be on the business aspect of our lives. That is, afterall, the environment where most of us where introduced to the concept.
If we do happen to set goals in other areas we treat each one as if it’s a silo… that it exists independently. But that’s not how life works. What we do in one area, ultimately impacts something else. Everything is connected.
You’ve probably heard someone say this before or may have even said it yourself, but I beg to differ. I’m calling B.S. That’s right. Failure IS ALWAYS an option. Likewise, you have options about how you process it. Will it make you stronger or will it stop you in your tracks?
Are you unwittingly contributing to the demise of your business before it even gets off the ground? If you identify as a ‘learning junkie’, the answer may be a resounding ‘yes’!
Don’t get me wrong. There is value in being informed and understanding trends.It’s important to see the big picture and have a vision for where you want to go. Understanding where you have learning gaps is essential for long term growth.